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  Even Mermaids Get the Blues

  by Cadellin in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  feeling particularly down today--got an email sent to me showing a pic of a friend of mine (not close but we knew each other well when kids) w/her aging parents, standing proudly beside her 11 year old daughter who had just got baptized (3 generations--parents, nearing 80, my friend late 40's and her 11 year old daughter).

  they're all beaming wildly, dressed up in their best dist assem.

  clothes.

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  Ah remember that it is just a picture, a snapshot- doesn't always reflect happy lives forever, I have looked at past pics of me at DC or circuit assemblies and we are all smiling happy, but that doesn't reflect what I was feeling deep inside. I know it can be frustrating talking to dubs about all their "plans" in life of reg pioneering and meetings and service, they make it sound happy and upbuilding- but you and I know that it is BS covering over unhappiness at the core.

  I will never forget what my niece told me when I told her and my sister that I did'nt want to be a witness anymore & that I was unhappy and wanted to change my life because I was praying to Jehovah to die everyday-

  she said that everybody in Jehovah's organization is unhappy, she said how she hated her life and she felt ugly and unwanted- she is still a regular pioneer....still stuck single in a small fishbowl of few eligible men who onlly want a 18 year old submissive waif. It is so sad...she is so beautiful and funny....

  hang in there, I am happy to be of the "conscious class" who got out, aren't you??

  CHG
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  declaring the truth about the truth during a talk from the platform

  by agent zero in

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  2. experiences

  has anyone done this, seen it happen, or heard of it happening?

  with what results?.

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  I was really impressed with his delivery and composure- I would not have had the "stones" to do that in front of my cong. without crying, but he ended with talk about how much he loved everyone there...it was really touching

  but I imagine that aftermath of that was anything but positive for those listening-

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  Do you feel sorry for the family members who shun you?

  by SweetBabyCheezits in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as each instance of shunning happens to me, it seems even more ridiculous than the last.. this weekend i took our kids to the park - wife opted out, understandably - and we let our daughter call my parents to inform them we'd be there.

  this was my first time in the presence of my parents since our df announcement two weeks ago.. my mom and dad were 10-20 feet away much of the time and yet they never said a greeting or.. well anything.

  at one point my daughter, who is aware of the shunning, mistakenly thought my mom called my name and shouted excitedly, "mawmaw, were you talking to daddy??

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  I feel the same as CyberJesus, I have been on both sides- I did the shunning when I was in & absolutely thought I had no choice, I was trapped & it hurt me badly- I had to apologize to my brother and father (they were both DF'd at one time) after I got out. All I could say is, "I honestly felt that I had no choice, I am sorry I fell pray to that thinking, I know better now-"

  Now I do feel badly for my mom, sister, nieces, and friends- but I understand where their mind is & I can still choose to love them even if they choose not to speak to me

  Those others in my hall that look the other way when I walk down the street; thats a different story ( I kinda like the uncomfortableness it causes them, it amuses me greatly)

  I feel for you SBC and your mom, chin up-

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  Anyone remember the stupidist of talks?

  by letsslatejws in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i remember a talk being devoted to use of the correct grammatical pronunciation of words.

  in fact any elder or brother for that matter who didnt use the correct pronunciation was viewed as illiterate and dorky so the congregation snubbed them.... i remember the word machinations (of the devil) and the emphasis that it should be pronounced mack in nations.... another one was.

  behove was meant to be pronounced 'behoooved'.

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  I remember a Sunday discourse where the brother denounced "the simpsons" show- "christians should never watch a show where the main character says such a disrespectful phrase as- don't have a cow man...or each my shorts"

  I had to watch it in secret, in my room with the volume way down low so my mom wouldn't catch me until I left home-

  Oh...yea- and the basterd who suggested in a talk that questionable music CD's should be burned! That was a very expensive collection that ended up a melted heap (and had to be re-bought later and hid)

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  My Story

  by kp138 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

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  Coffee House Girl

  Welcome KP- I could relate with much of your early story- my JW mom keeping me awake nights telling me to prepare for torture and hiding when the big A comes, I used to read survivial books to find out how to survive a fire, flood, tornado, hurricane, etc. I practiced drills in my room of what to do if armageddon came.

  My dad married my mom in the 1950's and got baptized just to marry her, then quit

  We just talked about that last weekend, sadly he said he would not have carried through with that course if he knew the consequences of what would come for him and us kids....they have had a hard married life full of fights and strife- now he has kidney failure and diagnosed with lung cancer (he is not seeking treatment) so even the "golden years" are hard for them

  I am so sorry for your loss

  Thanks for sharing your story with your positive steps...sharing that helps us all that are trying to move on

  CHG
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  New here..

  by breakfree in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just wanted to introduce myself.

  i've been reading your posts for a couple of months now and i think i finally have the courage to join in.

  i have written and deleted this post many times.

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  Coffee House Girl

  Hi! Welcome, you have so much of life ahead of you to live, I am glad for you that you can go forward with your eyes wide open to the real "truth" and enjoy your future with your wonderful family-

  thanks for sharing!

  CHG
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  they are going to DF me

  by Found Sheep in

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  2. friends

  just had 2 elders invite me to my judicial meeding about my marriage of two years.

  they think my husband was not legaly divorced.

  but he was and i had 3 lawyers tell me he was.

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  Coffee House Girl

  This is not a "governmental" organization with laws and justice- these are "cult" rules, & there is no justice or logic in them, I think you should try the suggestions given my those who already posted but prepare your mind for the fact that they may still DF you because their rules change to suit them and their decisions are made without your knowledge or imput- it is sick indeed.

  I am so sorry for your predicament

  CHG
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  ks10-e (official release), Letter from Bro. who scanned it! Newer version with BOE LTRs

  by yknot in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  while an earlier version was made available privately the time has come to 'progress'.. conscious class and ex both strongly adhere to not keeping things 'hidden' in regards to wts publications, talks and documents which are circulated in order to maintain it's position.. another wonderful poster (who has yet to give me permission to name) has 'reduced' and 'bookmarked' the first full copy link i was given by our 'winner'.. in this newest and final 'clean' copy link you find two other additions besides the reduction/bookmarking..... the brother who uploaded the entire book wishes all to have a copy that includes both boe ltrs (pre-ks ltr and spiral binding ltr).

  also another development has occurred.... the brother responsible for this book being brought into light and put forth for public consumption and discussion has requested i post this letter explaining to 'us' (jwn posters/global audience) and 'them' (wts of penn & ny).. i ask you give attention to his words/ experiences as he is representative of a newly emerging demographic within the conscious class.

  so without further ado i give you his link and the 'stage' if you will to 'brother johnson'....... [link removed - contact ynot for further info - lady lee].

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  Coffee House Girl

  Wow...I was also moved my Bro. Johnson's words; thank you Ynot for bringing this to us

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  My JW mothers opinion of disfellowshiped people!

  by LucyA in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

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  so a little background i am not dissfellowshiped and my sister stayed in for awhile though so she's treated like she is!.

  this is the most disturbing conversation i have ever had with my mother and for the first time i see clearly how deep the control on my mothers mind is!.

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  Coffee House Girl

  You also quoted my mother who has said the exact same kinds of things all my life, those statements disturbed me when I was in, and now that I am out I wish I had the balls to say something to her- that kind of talk is discusting!

  I try to think about her good qualities and try to remember that she is under mind control.

  I also agree with another poster who said that saying those things gives them "bonus points" to the other uber JWs. I think that people like our moms delude themselves into thinking that saying that crap out loud shows everyone else how devout they are...& covers over possible "past indescretions". Case in point is my mom...married a "worldly" man, guilt I think moves her to say those things...

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  Questions From Readers - October 20th, 2010

  by sd-7 in

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  2. friends

  why are jehovah's witnesses as a whole not permitted to read the elder's manual?.

  on the first day of the unfermented cakes, well before his arrest and sacrificial death, jesus christ instructed his disciples on how to prepare for the passover.

  when he did so, he did not provide advance, detailed instructions for all of his disciples; instead, he dispatched only two of them to find a suitable location, which he evidently had already planned with the householder.

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  Coffee House Girl

  Just read the first 11 chapters of the new flock book last nite & I loved your "questions from readers" satire, it works perfectly. You are gifted SD!

  Thanks!

  CHG